Choosing what feels right for your horse

I always try to avoid making hard rules, because every horse is an individual. While I personally enjoy riding bitless, Monty has shown me very clearly that it’s not what works best for him — especially when we’re doing balance work (not just heading out for a relaxed trail ride).

In his case, the action of a bit actually seems to help him organize his big body and feel secure. No matter which bitless setup I’ve tried, he ends up rushing, bracing, and feeling unbalanced. With a bit, he settles, steadies, and finds his balance much more confidently.

Monty came to us with a significant prior injury from his time as a working stallion running with mares. He has an offset tail, scar tissue in his poll area, and two dead front incisors — likely from a kick. Given his history, I suspect the action of the bit on the hyoid apparatus may actually help him stabilize and feel more comfortable. This particular curb bit is his favorite — though of course, it requires educated, sympathetic hands.

The point is not that bits are better than bitless, or vice versa. The point is to listen to the feedback your horse gives you. They will tell you what helps them feel balanced, safe, and understood — if we’re willing to pay attention.